~BJ, YOUR MEMORY LIVES ON~
BJ is our little cousin. He was the youngest of 5 boys. He died of a brain aneurysm at the age of 14 years, and 10 days short of 8 months. He leaves behind his grandparents Niula'ititi Harry (Also on FAG) & Ario Hopkinson; Papali'itele Petoni & Eseta Ala'ilima. His parents Papali'i Fetuao Ala'ilima & Marilyn Hopkinson. His 4 brothers Petoni, Kevin, Hale, And Mikey. One nephew, TJ Malaetele Ala'ilima. He is well loved and missed by so many. BJ made such a difference in so many people's lives. He had a smile that was contagious, and a heart that was bigger than he was. BJ stood 6'2" BJ was the gentle giant. He respected everyone. The age group of his friends ranged from little kids, to grown adults. BJ loved music, but most of all football. He loved the Raiders. His passion was football, there was no doubt in his mom's mind that BJ would have made it to college playing ball. His ultimate dream was to play pro.
BJ's high school, Gardena High School in Gardena, California retired his football jersey, #58.
On Sunday, October 31, 2005 BJ went out trick or treating like many other kids. He went to the Calvary Christian Church with family members. Who would have ever thought that would have been his last full day on earth. On the morning of Monday, November 1, 2005 BJ woke up for school but complained of being dizzy and that his head hurt. 911 was called when his mom felt something was really wrong. BJ was sitting on the edge of the couch and fell forward on to the floor. He was rushed to one hospital, then to another that specialized in pediatrics. BJ received a craniotomy that day. BJ was kept on the machines for 7 more days, but as days went on test would reveal that he was brain dead. On November 8, 2005 at 7:52p.m. the decision was made to remove BJ off of the machines, and at that time BJ passed away peacefully with his family and friends by his side and in the waiting room. Not once did his mother leave his side. She didn't go to work and slept at that hospital from day one. What was not known until after his death was that BJ was born with a anteriovenous malformation which caused the intracranial hemmorhage (brain aneurysm). Searching information, it is very rare that a child has a brain aneurysm.
Through BJ's death, he gave life to 4 others.
His right kidney was transplanted into a 44 year old man in Arkansas. He is married, has three children and enjoys fishing and watching football. His kidney function is good after receiving the transplant.
The left kidney and heart were transplanted into a 67 year old man in Southern California. The gentleman is married and the father of five children. The transplant center reports that he is doing well.
A 53 year old woman is the recipient of a pancreas transplant. She is divorced and has one child. This recipient works as a social worker and loves to cook. Her transplant was a success and she no longer needs to use insulin to manage her blood sugar level.
(Hey Buddy.... Can you believe I met Daniella yesterday, the receipient of your pancreas?? I know you were there son, when your phone went off when we first embraced, we were all shocked and amazed.....especially when your phone was off, but not surprised BJ. I knew you would be there too, it was a very good meeting. She's also a single mom, her daughter is Alexandra, who is just as beautiful as her mother. She's a very beautiful woman, very loving, grateful and thankful of your gift of life BJ. You have made a huge difference in her life, one that we would have never known until yesterday. We laughed because she asked me if you loved peanut butter and I told her yes, that one of our favorites was waffles and peanut butter, she couldn't believe it BJ. She never liked peanut butter before, and just started craving peanut butter, eating it directly from the jar, and with waffles. You are a part of her BJ. She hasn't had any problems with your pancreas, she feels peaceful and calm, no complications whatsoever. This is truly a testament of who you are son. You are a blessing, and I miss you so much. Thank you for always watching over us. Thank you also for watching over your brother, it could have been worse, but I know you and grandpa were there. I love you son, and I miss you so very much.
- Mom)
The liver recipient is a 51 year old single man. he is the father of two children and he worked as a truck driver. The gentleman enjoys music,wood working and cars. He is doing well.
BJ's heart is still beating out there, and I know the 67 year old man not only is strong as ever, but has a heart of gold.
A special THANK YOU to Alyssa Ashley Avelar's mom Lori for planting a orange tree in BJ's honor and memory. THANKS A MILLION LORI AND FAMILY, MERE WORDS CAN NOT EXPRESS OUR FEELINGS OF GRATITUDE!!!!!!!
My heatfelt THANK-YOU'S to everyone who has left a token of thoughts on BJ's memorial. It warms our hearts at every token of kindness that is left behind. You all are very dear and caring people. THANK YOU! Can you imagine if he had this many flowers at his gravesite? :o) His mom and I truly appreciate the show of love and support.